Conversations — A Magical Form of Active Recovery
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As we come to the end of the year, my schedules have relaxed a bit to allow for meeting with people beyond work. Given my uncertain work schedule that prioritises the lives of my documentary subjects, and then subsequently prioritising the few remaining time left for my wife and myself - it has resulted in most of my relationships being work-related.
However, when meeting outside of the context of getting a job done, reconnecting with these people this month has been refreshing, and as one of my conversations taught me - great for recovery too!
First, there is an obvious relief of pressure. No job to be done, no agenda on the list - just human beings connecting over stories and experiences, exuding emotion in a communal tango.
Second, there is the surprising joy of learning. When we are working together, not enough time or attention is paid to learning about an individual beyond what is relevant for the job. But a person is so much more than that, and these conversations allow for such exchanges.
Third, there is the comfort of a listening ear. In these momentary relationships where two or a few individuals bare their truths with the unspoken assurance of being listened to, one seems to feel either empowerment or relaxation in the face of choosing what to share. I have noticed how these sharings, at least in my conversations, were coaxed more by vibes than by questions - though the latter is critical in maintaining a “safe” space for oneself.
Fourth, there is food and beverage. Ah, the ever-welcoming aspect. It lightens the mood and slows things down. I think it brings up the volume of laughter too - particularly if the beverage (alcoholic or otherwise) is on point.
Fifth, there is undisrupted momentum. As the conversation continues, clocks and phones fade away - time always flies when fun is had. The topics can be about anything - and it always seems surprising what the next topic of conversation would be. But it is wholeheartedly engaging all the same. You will know when the momentum has started to cease because you won't notice when you are in the flow.
By the end of the conversation, with hearts and stomachs full, a sensation of ecstasy, born out of the intimacy of human experience, lingers till the end of day and night. I feel revitalised after such activities. I harbour a little more hope and carry with me a few more ideas.
My friend told me that it is natural. It is recommended to seek active recovery in one's routine - perhaps in mind given my working lifestyle. And such conversations, for all the wonders they do to our well-being by simply connecting with one another. Little else can compare.
That was his idea, but now it is mine too.
